Tuesday, October 13, 2015

This is It..!!

I wonder,what is it that we’re waiting for, exactly? Do you believe in perfect timing, all the stars aligning, and then you will know the time is right? 
Really!?Does that happen?
Life just happens. Life is. It changes every second of every day. There are very few constants. Yes, some actions and life events may have opportune timings, but if they don’t happen when you think they should does that make them any less right?
I can come up with a list of reasons why now is not the “right time” to do any number of things. It would be called a list of excuses. A list of possibilities you come up with in your head to talk yourself out of doing something you actually want to do. Why else would you have thought to do it in the first place? It’s very likely a list of things you are afraid of and/or things that could go wrong. But does that make it any less worthwhile, just because it has potential downsides? I think not.
If you don’t know what you’re waiting for, what happens if you miss it? What if right now is that perfect time, your one chance, and you miss it because it’s not what you were expecting? Expectations are the enemy of reality. So many times we build up scenarios in our mind of how we want a situation to play out. We create full scripts and story lines, only to become frustrated when, in actuality, the person we imagined having this scene with doesn’t follow their lines. You know why they don’t? Because they were not given a copy of your expectations.
How many times in your life have you been disappointed because something did not go as planned? How many times have you looked back and thought, “that’s not what was supposed to happen”? 
Disappointment is the sour after taste of having had expectations. If you are waiting for the “right time” that means you have established deciding factors that will dictate if a time is the right one. That means you have expectations. So be ready to be disappointed.

What is holding you back anyway? Why not just go for it?

The list goes on. There are seemingly simple solutions, and yet here we are, feeling held back. Look yourself in the mirror, and ask yourself, what is holding me back? You can’t walk into a battle blind; you need to know what you are up against. Are the barriers in your way emotional, mental, physical, or financial? Is there a way to overcome these barriers? How will you go about overcoming them?
Often, we are our own worst enemy. We hold ourselves back from actions, especially ones we label as risky, out of fear. Our fears of failure, rejection, loss, pain, confrontation, etc., are common barriers. While these may be justifiable fears in many situations, how do you know they would actually come true? Maybe your fears are only imagined. You can’t know for sure, and you will never know if you don’t try. 
Personally, the “what if” game I play with myself after I lose out on an opportunity is usually worse than the fear I felt wanting to do it. Who knows what great things great things we could accomplish — if we only let fear get in the way less. A little introspection can go a long way. Determine what your barriers are, and knock them down. If you are waiting for a sign, something must be blocking your view, or else you wouldn’t need a sign to reassure yourself you’re on the right road.
It’s true that good things come to those who wait, and I suppose sometimes timing is everything. However, good things do not come to those who sit around and simply expect good things to happen. Good things come to those who venture out into the world, and make good things happen for themselves. There is a difference between waiting because it is necessary, and waiting because you are anticipating a perfect time. The present is the only time that is guaranteed to us. Tomorrow brings with it the great unknown. Maybe it will be a better time than today, maybe it won’t be. Tomorrow also provides a wonderful excuse to put things off: “I’ll do it tomorrow.” Funny how there always seems to be another tomorrow to dismiss things until. But why not act today? Today is a glorious day. Today is as good a time as any to stop waiting, and start acting.

So, if you were waiting for a sign, maybe this is it.

Monday, April 13, 2015

What To Do and What Not To Do!!??

The post title translated to Hindi makes up for a Hindi Film Song.The song in the film was set in a romantic situation,but nowadays for me,that is a constant question overall,if not specifically in the romantic sense!

Here’s the thing: I don’t know what to do.
About this thing, about that thing. About big things and small things.
About anything.
Actually, to be honest, even the smallest thing seems big when I don’t know what to do about it.

And,I don’t know what to do about not knowing what to do.

And whenever I feel like this (which is not always, but often), I start not knowing what to do about things I did know what to do about before. Things I had already made decisions on, things I felt excited and sure about before, now feel wobbly and wrong. Even though I know the decisions felt right when I made them.

My brain starts questioning it all: What if I didn’t really know what to do then either, and just decided on something that wasn’t really the right thing to do after all? What if it turns out to be “wrong”? What if I acted on impulse and didn’t think it all through properly?

And I don’t like it. But I just don’t know what to do about it. So I do nothing. Except worry and be anxious that doing nothing is not the right thing to do. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, and it’s totally and utterly unproductive.
And the only thing that makes it stop? Is to just decide and do something. To just do anything.
And the only way to know what to do? Well actually, there is no answer to that one.
Other than to not worry about worrying. To not feel anxious about feeling anxious. To accept that there is no right answer.

Maybe ,I should be writing more.....
 

Tuesday, February 24, 2015

The other world!!

This is an incident from my stay in UK.
A British colleague of mine,with whom I took coffee breaks had the design of two lizards on his coffee mug.Those were pretty good sized lizards,with one of them having its face positioned at the exact place from where one would sip.

Now,let me admit,I belong to the category of people who jump away at the very sight of a lizard and go "eeekkss" and can't be at peace till its gotten rid of.

So,you can imagine,how I felt when I saw that coffee mug.I couldn’t resist for too long and after a few days ended up asking my colleague,

Me : Are those lizards?
He : Yeah...
Me : (trying to find right words instead of "why on earth??")ermm...did anyone   gift you the cup?
He : No,I bought it myself..
Me : Ahhh...any particular reason for the design?
He : (quite confused)well.... I love them
Me : (no longer hiding my surprise)You love lizards??????
He : (quite simply) yeah...I find them interesting
Me : But there arent really any around here,are they..in Britain?
He : No,thats the sad part!
Me : (Chuckling)Really?You should see in India then,there are so many,most of us are pretty scared of them...
He : Scared?Why would you be scared of them..
Me : Oh...(loss of words)I don’t know,maybe because they might jump on us or something...
He : (happily)Hmmm...I will like it in India then....

I smiled and kept quiet!!!

It felt so bizarre how I was relishing the lizard-free aspect of his country and he was looking forward to seeing the lizards in my country.
Reminds me of another news that museums in Canada have mosquitoes on display,since they don’t find them there.And we try to fight dengue/malaria!!

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Missing from action!!

As is very evident,I have been absent from my blog world from quite a long time now.I could easily put the blame on busy schedules or personal turmoils,all excuses trust me!
But thanks to some ardent followers of the blog(Thank God for them)who kept asking me why I don’t write anymore(Quite a compliment actually.:-)),I will soon be back with new posts!!

Watch this space!!:)